Your first morning…a scramble – the kids are used to sleeping later, they drag their heels, they can’t find their things…sound familiar?

Are you feeling a bit nervous for your child’s first day back at school? What teacher will they get? Will they make friends? Are they ready? Will they cling to you?

Here are 3 tips to make your child’s first day back at school a little easier

  1.  Have a before conversation with them 

Having a conversation with your children to prepare them emotionally for their first day can allow them to feel more empowered on the day. This can be done the day before or even a few conversations leading up to the day. Ask them what they expect? What do they think will happen? Whose class do they want to be in? What could they do if they aren’t? How will they connect with their friends? Who could they start a conversation with? When they have thought about it and have a plan it is easier for them to handle situations when they arise. When they have a plan, it can settle their fears because we can teach them that their fears are just their bodies way of telling them that they need to get prepared.

  1.  Get clothes and bags packed the day before 

Taking time the day before to get them to pack their bags and get all their school clothes out can make a huge difference to the stress of the morning. Regardless of their age, teaching them to pack their own things is a great way to develop independence. Doing this the day before allows us more time and is less stressful than trying to get them to do it on the morning when there is time pressure. If they are young start small, involve them. It may take a little longer but including them is an opportunity to connect and you are developing independence. 

  1. Set clear boundaries about the morning routine 

Have a conversation about the morning the day before. Choose a time when they are not tired, and you are in rapport with them. Talk to them about what time you are leaving for school, decide together what they do first (e.g. dress, eat, brush teeth). Let them have input, guide them if they have forgotten anything. Ask questions. When you involve them, it develops self-motivation because they get a sense that they have decided. Talk about what will happen if they aren’t ready. Ask them what they can do to make sure they can be ready. When they agree and decide, you have built some form of accountability in them which you can refer to on the morning when they dawdle. Setting up these agreements and consequences and following the same process consistently develops their accountability. It is not something they will just get right straight away…even though we wish they would!

They will get it…we just need to be consistent

In closing

Use these tips and others I provide in my blogs.  I am here to support you through your entire parent journey

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About the Author

Gail is a Family Relationship Coach specialising in Parent-Child Relationships. She is passionate about empowering and inspiring parents to develop children’s self-awareness. She believes that this can be achieved by balancing parent’s needs with children’s development and happiness. Understanding how to synchronise our thoughts and emotions and what drives them ensures our happiness, and our children reaching their full potential. Gail is a Qualified NLP Practitioner, NLP Life Coach and Emotional Freedom Techniques Practitioner with over 10 years’ experience and success at applying these techniques to children’s learning and behaviour. Her success with her own son is proof of the possibility of true potential

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