Do you really feel satisfied in your relationship with your partner?

Do you ever feel….

Like your partner doesn’t really hear you

I wish he would love me the way I need it

He should know what I need…Do I even know what I need?

Love can be complicated. Teaching our children the aspects to developing love in relationships can start when they are young so they become good partners when they are older

I grew up with a perception that love is when everyone is happy the whole time. Isn’t that what we all want? It is that tingling feeling when you think of your loved one. The irony is that when we strive for that picture, we cause our own unhappiness because what happens when we or our loved ones don’t feel happy or have that tingling feeling all the time?

I now believe love is about presence, being with someone and loving them when they are happy or sad, being with ourselves and loving ourselves when we are happy or sad. In other words, allowing ourselves to feel what we feel and take responsibility for our own emotions without judging ourselves or others.  The way others feel, is not our responsibility.  As soon as we are not happy with how someone else feels, it is an indication that we have given our power away and not taken responsibility for our own feelings.  i.e. we need them to be a certain way in order for us to be happy.  It is our expression of our own love, towards ourselves and others that fulfils us, not how they treat or feel about us.

And it is the same for our children. Do we want or expect them to be happy the whole time? Do we teach them that they are responsible for our happiness? Mom or dad will be upset if you do that! Do we teach them that love is about feeling happy the whole time?

Here are 7 practical ways to teach your children about true love when they are young

  1. Listen and be there for them without judgement or solution when they are talking about their friendships
  2. Teach them to listen and not judge their friends
  3. Teach them to listen to themselves and make choices that they feel are right for them even if others don’t like it
  4. Teach them to talk about the uncomfortable rather than choosing peace or happy in the moment
  5. Allow them to be happy, sad, angry, frustrated and acknowledge their feelings
  6. Teach them to express love because it feels good, not to get a response they want from another person
  7. Encourage them to be brave and express how they feel. Teach them that they can keep their hearts safe because they choose who they interact with.

Do you have love just the way you want it in your family? If you would like to know more or how you can apply these strategies in your situation, book a session with me. Contact me on [email protected].

Empowering ourselves is the biggest gift we can give our children…and ourselves!

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In closing

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About the Author

Gail is a Family Relationship Coach specialising in Parent-Child Relationships. She is passionate about empowering and inspiring parents to develop children’s self-awareness. She believes that this can be achieved by balancing parent’s needs with children’s development and happiness. Understanding how to synchronise our thoughts and emotions and what drives them ensures our happiness, and our children reaching their full potential. Gail is a Qualified NLP Practitioner, NLP Life Coach and Emotional Freedom Techniques Practitioner with over 10 years’ experience and success at applying these techniques to children’s learning and behaviour. Her success with her own son is proof of the possibility of true potential

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