Qualities to develop in our Children

If you missed it, here’s

Part 1: Developing commitment

Part 2: Developing courage

Part 3: Developing Curiosity

Curiosity is the pathway to creativity and innovation. It is such a valuable quality to have as a parent and to develop in our children. Encouraging children to be curious develops their critical thinking and problem-solving skills.

Why do we as parents need curiosity?

It creates a safe space for children to learn. When there are no expectations children have the freedom to come up with the most creative answer and there is no fear of rejection.  When we question and have conversations with our children, our intent has a huge impact on the result. Very often we have other intentions like to teach our children something, to change or improve something, to get something done and while that is important, it is also important just to be curious. Being curious allows our children to feel loved, heard and seen.

So how do you know when to listen with curiosity and when with other intent?

The answer is not specific to certain situations it is about creating the space for both. When we are in a hurry or under pressure, this is not a good time to open a conversation with curiosity. Choose opportunities that work for you, perhaps in the car on the way to or from school.

3 Easy steps to develop curiosity in your children

  1. Allow them to come up with answers to their own challenges. Let them try different strategies even if they don’t work. Questions to ask:
    • What happened at school that you didn’t enjoy? What happened at school today that you did enjoy?
    • What made you feel that way?
    • Why do you think that happened?
    • Why do you think the people reacted in that way?
    • What do you think they needed?
    • Teach them to notice other people’s frames of reference and thinking patterns. Encourage them to ask others with curiosity.
    • How could you respond?
  2. Ask them their opinions about different situations. When a topic of conversation comes up and your children are around, ask them their opinion. Questions to ask:
    • What do you think?
    • What makes you think that?
    • How would that turn out?
    • What else is possible?
  1. Encourage them to have an enquiring mind. Teach them to be curious about their friend’s perspectives and opinions. Encourage them to search for answers when they ask a question, rather than giving them an answer. Teach them that learning and finding out information is fun and empowering. Show them how to google search, search with them. This also develops independence. Questions to ask:
    • How can you find out?
    • Who can you ask?
    • Where can you find the answer?
    • What would having the answer give you?
    • Does it feel hard to search for the answer?
    • What would make it feel easier?

Remember questions are the answer, they develop your children’s minds

Please post your feedback! What worked? Where did you get stuck? Are there any other topics you would like to read about?

Next week we will talk about developing consideration for others

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