Do you ever feel like when something goes wrong everything feels wrong?

Do you ever feel like when something goes wrong everything feels wrong?

When one aspect of your life isn’t working it feels like everything isn’t working? 

This is how the brain works, it generalizes and puts everything into the same bucket! But it doesn’t mean that it is true even if our feelings really feel like it is true!

This is a difficult place to be and what we really need in this space is love and care


Here are 3 practical ways you can support and love yourself in this space


  1. Be accepting of yourself that you are feeling this way

Even though it feels wrong and uncomfortable, give yourself reassurance that it is okay to feel upset. All feelings are valid. Ask yourself:

  • What about the situation upsets you?
  • Do you believe you have made the right decisions or taken the right action according to what is right for you? This doesn’t mean you got the outcome you wanted or that everything went well, it means that you chose what was right despite the outcome
  • What have you learnt from this?
  • What can you do differently going forward?
  • What do you need now?
  • How can you give that to yourself?

Being accepting of how you feel and listening and unpacking your feelings can give you insight and understanding even though it feels bad. This can give some form of peace or relief


  1. Acknowledge yourself for all that you are doing well

Think about each day, ask yourself

  • What am I doing well?
  • What did I do well in that situation?
  • Are my other situations really as bad as they feel?
  • What is good about them?
  • What else could I be doing?

Just spending gentle time focusing on the good aspects of what you do, moves your attention away from the pain and separates your current experience from everything else


  1. Think about what you can do now

Take a bit of time to think about what you can do

  • What can you do now that will bring you joy? Can you visit a friend or have a cup of tea on your patio?
  • What small action steps can you take to move yourself towards the outcome you really wanted? 
  • Each time you feel your upset reassure yourself that it is okay and you have taken time to think about it, learnt from it and are taking action to prevent it happening again


As we go through life, we can’t avoid the difficult times but if we have a strategy to work through our feelings in those times, we don’t have to carry that burden or feeling or let it impact other areas of our life. Just this simple process can settle the feelings so that we can carry on. When we go through this process it helps the brain to de-generalize and puts things into better perspective. This reduces our overwhelm.

In closing

Use these tips and others I provide in my blogs.  I am here to support you through your entire parent journey

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About the Author

Gail is a Family Relationship Coach specialising in Parent-Child Relationships. She is passionate about empowering and inspiring parents to develop children’s self-awareness. She believes that this can be achieved by balancing parent’s needs with children’s development and happiness. Understanding how to synchronise our thoughts and emotions and what drives them ensures our happiness, and our children reaching their full potential. Gail is a Qualified NLP Practitioner, NLP Life Coach and Emotional Freedom Techniques Practitioner with over 10 years’ experience and success at applying these techniques to children’s learning and behaviour. Her success with her own son is proof of the possibility of true potential

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