New teachers, new classes, new friends, new grade, and sometimes a new school.

There are many things to organise like school books, uniforms, schedules, stationery. But do we remember to prepare our children emotionally and mentally?

Getting children prepared for their year gives them confidence and direction. When they are very small it can be simple conversations to start developing the way they think.

The Goal is to get them thinking: What action do I need to take to get what I want?

Here are few ideas:

  • Ask your children what they are expecting – this gives children the opportunity to prepare themselves mentally for what they might expect which results in a sense of certainty and safety. You can lead the conversation and give them ideas of what they could expect. Keep it simple and short. This conversation can also be held afterwards – what did they expect compared to what they experienced.
  • Ask your children what they would like for the coming year – getting them to think about what they would like gives them a frame of reference for the actions they take. Sometimes they won’t know, but that is okay, it is getting them thinking which is your goal.

For example:

If they want to make more friends, you can lead a discussion on what they need to do to achieve this. It could be: notice who is new in the class, say hello to someone they haven’t spoken to before, what questions could they ask them and what would they say about themselves. Notice if they have resistance to this. Allow the resistance and ask them what they need to feel comfortable to try.

  • Ask your children how they feel about school. What do they like? What don’t they like? What could they try to make it better? The aim of the questions is not to make them feel better, it is to develop their thinking to find solutions to the parts they are not so happy with.

Small daily conversations about little things are very powerful in the development of your children’s perceptions which ultimately determines their happiness and success.

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